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- musteryouYou know, there is something strange, but I think my father saw in me his mother and took an instant dislike to certain aspects of my character, which he tried to break down or change, so that he would not have to be maternally abandoned again. Yes, it sounds bizarre, but that is the best explanation for the strange events that have happened.10Rate This
- No, this makes a lot of sense, I think.00Rate This
- Oh well. Would have been nice to have had an explanation for his absurd behavior much earlier on. People kept blaming me for it, and what was even more strange, they attributed gender stereotyped attitudes to me for complaining about the situation.Now, consider this. My father was targeting me because he had detected I was not particularly warm and emotional and people began saying that the reason he was targeting me was because I was quite the feminine stereotype after all, and my father was trying to bring me in line with a more rational ideal of emotional suppression.That is something I find bizarre to this day — the tendency of people to leap to the wrong conclusion and then to stick to it. He wasn’t fearful of my “emotion” but of the lack thereof, and he kept trying to break me down because of what he saw to be lacking.But anyone I tried to explain this to said, “No, no, no. It is the opposite. Men are rational. Women are emotional. By nature.”
