Unlike the shamanic type who retreats only temporarily into the magical realm in order to retrieve better tools for practical living, the modern day misogynist retreats into this realm for good.
The spectre of the adult female frightens him so much that he retreats to a stage of development where he feels that he will be unharmed. This early mode of development is, as Sherry Salman points out, a dissociative mode of the infantile self.
The misogynist has certainly made his retreat. In the regressive mode he hopes to find safety and security at once. Yet, he finds he cannot do without women. So, women re-enter his picture, this time as mothers. The infantile self wants to be cared for and assured that all is well. Above all, it DEMANDS it. "You OWE me this!" it screams to every passing female. "I need to be loved, and cared for, and attended to!"
In this dissociated condition its seems to the one who screams thus that he is calling from a state of pure benevolence, goodness and light. It is his inherent righteousness that enables him to make such a call for the attentions of others. Truth be told, however, he is also a little self-disgusted. "I just shat myself -- and YOU made me do it!!" he proclaims to those he wants to enrol to do the task of mother.
At other times, he is more sure of himself: "I am the superman," he proclaims. Magical thinking of this sort enables him to comfort himself whilst remaining entirely passive -- it is not his task to influence the world.
This infantile persona yelps: "You have made me frightened, and now I DEMAND to be comforted and unconditionally accepted!" The contemporary pseudo-feminist is not all that different. Both are flip-sides of each other. Only the one who doubles in order to detach from themself is truly knowledgeable.
The spectre of the adult female frightens him so much that he retreats to a stage of development where he feels that he will be unharmed. This early mode of development is, as Sherry Salman points out, a dissociative mode of the infantile self.
The misogynist has certainly made his retreat. In the regressive mode he hopes to find safety and security at once. Yet, he finds he cannot do without women. So, women re-enter his picture, this time as mothers. The infantile self wants to be cared for and assured that all is well. Above all, it DEMANDS it. "You OWE me this!" it screams to every passing female. "I need to be loved, and cared for, and attended to!"
In this dissociated condition its seems to the one who screams thus that he is calling from a state of pure benevolence, goodness and light. It is his inherent righteousness that enables him to make such a call for the attentions of others. Truth be told, however, he is also a little self-disgusted. "I just shat myself -- and YOU made me do it!!" he proclaims to those he wants to enrol to do the task of mother.
At other times, he is more sure of himself: "I am the superman," he proclaims. Magical thinking of this sort enables him to comfort himself whilst remaining entirely passive -- it is not his task to influence the world.
This infantile persona yelps: "You have made me frightened, and now I DEMAND to be comforted and unconditionally accepted!" The contemporary pseudo-feminist is not all that different. Both are flip-sides of each other. Only the one who doubles in order to detach from themself is truly knowledgeable.
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