The fogging of feminist critiques is all too common, not least because it is taught by patriarchal systems that "women" are only able to communicate about personal issues not real ones. So, what we are encountering here is, in a very material sense, patriarchy's immune defence against a hostile critique. Feminism is not a hostile critique of men, but of a system that keeps men and women at each other's throats.
The fearful and/or angry reaction has its roots in feelings, spouting forth in many men, that they are not attractive to women.
Men often underestimate their capacity to be appealing, just for being men, that is for their intrinsic qualities. Patriarchy is a compensatory system for this (often delusional) sense of something lacking in the nature of one's unfurnished being. The emotional certainty that no woman would like them as they are without titles or money or pretending to be more intelligent than they are means feminism represents a challenge to men.
The feminist challenge frightens many men because they don't think it is based on reality.
Many males feel certain that women do not actually want anything straight-forward, but that women are expecting more than that. Such men's fear that men cannot live up to women's expectations becomes translated as "women are fickle". Many also suffer from fear that they would be abandoned by their women, unless there is something compulsive at work which preaches female inferiority and keeps women partly shattered.
It's not the case that men recoil from women acting outside of their traditional roles. It's more that many men,but not all, cannot imagine maintaining a relationship that isn't based on force.
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