A typical, but inadequate approach to self defence is for a woman to try to appease the one who seeks control over her. This approach is necessitated by her conventionally feminine character structure.
There is good reason to think that character structure, itself, is formed under fear of death. One learns to conform to traditional gender roles out of the primeval fear of being outcast (which, traditionally, meant death). So, women develop this character structure that seeks to appease because they have made their peace with the social system that has conditioned them to believe that they "ought" to be "nice"(a categorical imperative). They have made their peace with the patriarchal system as a way to avoid death. However, the character structure they develop as a resulting of conforming in this way makes them more susceptible to injury and death.
Appeasing a bully doesn't usually work.
They would have to face (their fear of) death again, to break down their existing, traditional character structure and to develop very different reflexive strategies. Sometimes full contact self defence training can achieve this.
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