This morning I awoke with an understanding that the reason that they can't put themselves in another's shoes is their rigidity. This is harder to express than the clarity of my vision, but if you are very, very rigid, you cannot see context. You can't see, for instance that a child is scared because there is a large dog standing in her path, or the man is listless because he just got fired from his job. A very rigid personality will be unable to conceptualize that it is possible to be scared one moment, but not the next, or listless at a time of crisis but not throughout one's whole life. The narcissist only sees what appears in the here-and-now, and believes this is the whole character of those he is observing. In fact, so confused is his reasoning that he believes if he can get the child to act scared, he is revealing the true essence of the child's nature, once and forever. Likewise if he gets a man fired from his job, he is just revealing to the world the fundamental listless nature of the man, which is why the man deserved to be fired from his job. Everything the narc does is a human service -- an uncovering of reality as it really is. That's why he cannot understand why others are not more grateful to him. In his own mind, he is merely pointing out the truth about things that others do not want to face.
This may be also why he waits until you are vulnerable to attack you, so as to expose what he thinks is the real essence of your being, once and for all. Once again, he is performing a social service, by warning others about you. He was the only one to see through the masks you put up to hide your true personality. Only he had the genius to notice that the child wasn't really happy-go-lucky and capable of enjoying life, and that the man was really so listless than nobody in their right mind would employ him anyway. He saw through the whole facade they were putting up, and returned things to their proper order. Everyone ought to be thanking him for his insights and moral rectitude. After all, children who are fearful will never grow up to be strong adults, unless they are told how sick their characters really are, and made to realize what is wrong with them. And somebody who is listless is not facing up to life and simply getting a job. Weak and phony people like those he notices all around him deserve the vilification of all.
This may be also why he waits until you are vulnerable to attack you, so as to expose what he thinks is the real essence of your being, once and for all. Once again, he is performing a social service, by warning others about you. He was the only one to see through the masks you put up to hide your true personality. Only he had the genius to notice that the child wasn't really happy-go-lucky and capable of enjoying life, and that the man was really so listless than nobody in their right mind would employ him anyway. He saw through the whole facade they were putting up, and returned things to their proper order. Everyone ought to be thanking him for his insights and moral rectitude. After all, children who are fearful will never grow up to be strong adults, unless they are told how sick their characters really are, and made to realize what is wrong with them. And somebody who is listless is not facing up to life and simply getting a job. Weak and phony people like those he notices all around him deserve the vilification of all.