If you have a basic injury at the level of your emotional being, you are liable making the kinds of mistakes that come from not being a whole emotional being. You can't see others' motivations clearly enough, because there is a part of your perceptual apparatus (related to your emotional wholeness) missing. So you trust the wrong sorts of people -- the people who have themselves been damaged and discovered a partial release from their externally imposed state of masochism by becoming sadists (flipping over). At the same time, because you suffer from a lack of wholeness, you try to make up for it with perfectionism.
The practiced sadist automatically taps into this sense of striving to be complete and turns it to his ends -- towards malicious ends. So, you end up working hard for the sadist, fulfilling his needs to try to make himself whole by dominating another (a project in which he is also destined to fail). Your lack of wholeness is guaranteed so long as you remain in this externally imposed masochistic position.
That is because the sadist needs you to remain incomplete and striving in order for him to gain a temporary sensation of feeling complete.
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