What defines an interaction as being thwarted by patriarchal influences? It comes down to realizing that all contents of one's communication over the years have been discarded by the interlocutor. Instead of retaining the meaning of what had been said, he has retained only a very general emotional impression of any set of interactions. Often, these are produced as projections of female stereotypes, from within his head.
By contrast with this psychologically projective mode of relating,we discover the protocol of responding appropriately to others' overtures through a book that teaches foreigners. The pattern demonstrated is as follows:
If this is the normal pattern of harmonious social interaction, one can tell when a situation has acquired an artificial ideological dimension simply by the fact that person B will not first acknowledge what A has said before stating his own point of view.
This breach of protocol at a fundamental level is indicative of the violent nature of patriarchal interactions overall. It expresses an imperative: "I'm only open to affirming my existing point of view!"
Although it is hard to know, initially, if such a person has understood what has been said to him, eventually time itself proves that he hasn't understood much that had been communicated over a length of several years.
By contrast with this psychologically projective mode of relating,we discover the protocol of responding appropriately to others' overtures through a book that teaches foreigners. The pattern demonstrated is as follows:
Person A remarks on something.
Person B then comments, acknowledging what A has said. Alternatively he might follow with a secondary question (for instance to get more information, ask for clarification, etc.)
If this is the normal pattern of harmonious social interaction, one can tell when a situation has acquired an artificial ideological dimension simply by the fact that person B will not first acknowledge what A has said before stating his own point of view.
This breach of protocol at a fundamental level is indicative of the violent nature of patriarchal interactions overall. It expresses an imperative: "I'm only open to affirming my existing point of view!"
Although it is hard to know, initially, if such a person has understood what has been said to him, eventually time itself proves that he hasn't understood much that had been communicated over a length of several years.
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