You can almost compare this game of shattering the victim/destroying the victim's entire world and then sweeping in to play the hero good guy role to a form of munchausen by proxy. The predator perpetrates all the abuse, as much as is needed to demolish the victim, and when the victim is hopelessly destroyed the predator can then resuscitate the victim only to destroy the victim again if the victim shows too many signs of recovering. The predator can look like the good person in his false self while doing this and blame the victim for any occurrences of recovery as well as justify his abuse of the victim each time the victim looks too strong again. The cycle can be repeated endlessly so again -- do not show him recovery while maintaining the balance to keep him assisting you so that you can get your ducks in a row to flee and go no contact with him.
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+Sereena Nightshade Yes, that is what they intend to do. And quite often it is easy enough for them to do. If you harbour even the slightest ambivalence toward them, rather than straight out contempt, they will use the remaining positive aspects of your feeling, or your conciliatory nature, to make it look like your original critique of them was flawed. This enables them to publicly cast doubt on your judgement. And remember that those with poor judgement are viewed as being insane.
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