I contemplate something today that I have always intuitively felt to be the case, that misogyny is very unattractive.
"Why should that be the case?" -- you want to know.
"Why can't you just ignore those misogynistic aspects of the personality, and simply get along?"
Certainly, it is easier to overlook somebody's misogynistic style if no intimacy is expected. One treats them at arms length -- and, somehow, never forgets to do so!
"But really, why must it be that way? Why does misogyny have to produce such a negative response in women?"
Well, when I think about it, misogyny is active resentment towards women in a male, and as such, it akin to displaying a negative character reference. Misogyny is a sign that an embittered male wears on his sleeve, that his previous relationships with women until now have failed miserably. Otherwise, his responses towards women would be healthy, virile, heterosexual.
As a female, what one is looking for in a male is a sign of a healthy psyche. One wants to know that he has a particular kind of virility -- not that which is appealing to other males (which could signify that he is gay). Rather, one anticipates a sense of his being recommended by other women.
Misogyny indicates that other women have seen fit to reject him. They must have detected in him something unpleasant, something very faulty in his nature. And by his expression of misogyny, the male, in turn, is relaying that he has received some very negative messages about himself -- which is why he is so bitter.
"Why should that be the case?" -- you want to know.
"Why can't you just ignore those misogynistic aspects of the personality, and simply get along?"
Certainly, it is easier to overlook somebody's misogynistic style if no intimacy is expected. One treats them at arms length -- and, somehow, never forgets to do so!
"But really, why must it be that way? Why does misogyny have to produce such a negative response in women?"
Well, when I think about it, misogyny is active resentment towards women in a male, and as such, it akin to displaying a negative character reference. Misogyny is a sign that an embittered male wears on his sleeve, that his previous relationships with women until now have failed miserably. Otherwise, his responses towards women would be healthy, virile, heterosexual.
As a female, what one is looking for in a male is a sign of a healthy psyche. One wants to know that he has a particular kind of virility -- not that which is appealing to other males (which could signify that he is gay). Rather, one anticipates a sense of his being recommended by other women.
Misogyny indicates that other women have seen fit to reject him. They must have detected in him something unpleasant, something very faulty in his nature. And by his expression of misogyny, the male, in turn, is relaying that he has received some very negative messages about himself -- which is why he is so bitter.
No comments:
Post a Comment