Black holes

It has now become obvious to me that puzzle of the patriarchal male --why he is how he is --can be related to a similar phenomenon, to "black holes" in the Universe. As I have said earlier, "patriarchy is institutionalised male narcissism which psychologically obliterates the Other":

My sense of things is that patriarchy wants a mirror for the male psyche (like Narcissus) in order for masculinity to read, in the Other, the meaning of the male sex drive. This was arguably also Freud's project all along -- to discern the meaning of the male sex drive, to focus on it, and understand its message for patriarchal culture. Logically, in order for the male sex drive to be able to read "objectively", it needs to be read as a phenomenon in isolation. Therefore, the female sex drive has to be silenced; it has to be rendered passive. And so it was rendered that way by patriarchy, throughout the ages. The outcome of this peculiarly patriarchal logic is why it became technically impossible, from a patriarchal point of view, to find out anything about the female sex drive. That is why Freud's understanding of female sexuality could only go so far as asking the rhetorical question, "What do women want?" It is logically consistent with the patriarchal psychological construction of reality that Freud should not have been able to produce a substantial answer to this question, despite dedicating his whole life to questions of human sexuality.

However, if one is to understand the very construction of reality in patriarchal terms as designed to feed male narcissism by silencing the Other (that is, women) then a lot more starts to make sense.

Why does one experience, in a relationship with certain males, the sense that the closer they get to you the less you have the ability to make sense? It is as if one were pulled beyond an event horizon, after which point one's very atoms start to tear apart. Whatever meaning one may have intended to convey is lost for good.

Others cannot even hear one screaming.

That it is in the fundamental nature of patriarchal culture to do this to women is hardly understood. Do we look up into the night sky and notice black holes? Not at all.

Rather, we tend to notice only stars -- the givers, rather than the takers of light.

The phenomenon of patriarchal men as "black holes" has been similarly overlooked historically. I consider it necessary to take into account their aggregate effect if one would weigh up the universe in terms of human interpsychological relationships.