How to Be a Cultured Person | Clarissa's Blog
"There is nobody I detest more than people who bark at their family members to let off steam. It is absolutely disgusting and incredibly vulgar to make one’s “moods” somebody else’s problem."
People like this, more often male, but sometimes also female, like to try to escape from themselves and the negative sensations they have into the "twosome" of themselves and another. So I've learned over the years -- over some very long years -- to block them. Indeed, you need to wrap them up in themselves. You don't let them cross that bridge to get away from what they find repulsive in themselves, or otherwise their repulsive thing becomes yours. So you give it back to them and wrap them up in themselves, by making them account for their repulsive thing. "What was the underlying meaning when you said that to me? What was the purpose? Why did you choose those words?"
Also, they are looking for an emotional reaction of any sort. A negative one is as good as a positive one, so you do not give them one. Consequently, they don't know how their words have been received and this makes them paranoid. Then you keep asking them what their underlying intent was.
I don't allow emotional transactions that I do not first approve, but many people think they can get away with these. It's an extremely dangerous game they choose to play.
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