A Brilliant Post From a Brilliant Person | Clarissa's Blog
I concede that men would not like the consequences, if they got what they were demanding. I have made that argument often enough before, but I do think that many people have no ability to think the issue through to its consequences. They are driven by unconscious feelings. There's an endemic immaturity and alienation from their humanity that persists in the modern mind. Some people believe their demands are not costly at all. :(
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This all concerns infantile psychodynamics normalized to the social level. Of course, they remain unconscious dynamics for the most part, since they are not analysed and the ethics of projecting qualities like intense emotionalism onto others is never questioned.
A culture that considers itself individualistic is particularly blind to its own psycho-dynamics. Also it assumes that exchanges at this level are not costly. I have made it my life mission to try to point out the costs, but that is hard enough to do. There really are costs in remaining at an infantile level and not developing self-awareness. Not only the “individual” suffers, but society as a whole, since people are relegated to performing stupid tasks as part objects, rather than expressing their full capabilities as adults.
I have pointed this out again and again, but it touches on very sore points for many, many people. You can tell just how painful by the accusations they direct against me when I point out that these unconscious psycho-dynamics exist. I’m accused of bringing them into being, or representing what I am criticizing, or whatever.
This is an awesome paragraph, because it pinpoints the unconscious source of very much contemporary male resentment against the “liberated woman”:
There was this male commenter on the blog yesterday who claim that women who don’t give him affection are immoral because they unjustly deprive him of something he needs. Somebody brought him up to believe that women should exist solely to fulfill his needs. And that’s scary.
I concede that men would not like the consequences, if they got what they were demanding. I have made that argument often enough before, but I do think that many people have no ability to think the issue through to its consequences. They are driven by unconscious feelings. There's an endemic immaturity and alienation from their humanity that persists in the modern mind. Some people believe their demands are not costly at all. :(
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This all concerns infantile psychodynamics normalized to the social level. Of course, they remain unconscious dynamics for the most part, since they are not analysed and the ethics of projecting qualities like intense emotionalism onto others is never questioned.
A culture that considers itself individualistic is particularly blind to its own psycho-dynamics. Also it assumes that exchanges at this level are not costly. I have made it my life mission to try to point out the costs, but that is hard enough to do. There really are costs in remaining at an infantile level and not developing self-awareness. Not only the “individual” suffers, but society as a whole, since people are relegated to performing stupid tasks as part objects, rather than expressing their full capabilities as adults.
I have pointed this out again and again, but it touches on very sore points for many, many people. You can tell just how painful by the accusations they direct against me when I point out that these unconscious psycho-dynamics exist. I’m accused of bringing them into being, or representing what I am criticizing, or whatever.
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