Sexuality and Patriarchy | Clarissa's Blog
Many who need to break out of patriarchal thinking will have to combat their inclination to form unhealthy symbiotic relationships. They really need to address the assumption of automatic dependency that has become instinct and reflex. Once they do, they will have more of the self-awareness they need to resist getting caught up in other unhealthy symbioses.
What I have seen in the past ten or fifteen years is first women waking up and trying to break the spell of warped perceptions that would keep them in an unhealthy state. Now the men are finding that the world no longer seems to be ‘rational’ to them, because it no longer accommodates their unconscious assumptions that reality must be symbiotic.
I suppose it feels like an attack whenever one comes away from an experience feeling disappointed at having failed to achieve a level of symbiosis with the other sex. As Klein said, a disappointed expectation at the level of needed symbiosis (the infantile state) is not viewed a neutral but as a hostile attack (the “bad” breast that does not have any milk).
Consequently, those who refrain from unhealthy symbiosis APPEAR to be on the attack and it is asserted that they are “narcissistic” — but this is all projection at the most basic of levels.
Many who need to break out of patriarchal thinking will have to combat their inclination to form unhealthy symbiotic relationships. They really need to address the assumption of automatic dependency that has become instinct and reflex. Once they do, they will have more of the self-awareness they need to resist getting caught up in other unhealthy symbioses.
What I have seen in the past ten or fifteen years is first women waking up and trying to break the spell of warped perceptions that would keep them in an unhealthy state. Now the men are finding that the world no longer seems to be ‘rational’ to them, because it no longer accommodates their unconscious assumptions that reality must be symbiotic.
I suppose it feels like an attack whenever one comes away from an experience feeling disappointed at having failed to achieve a level of symbiosis with the other sex. As Klein said, a disappointed expectation at the level of needed symbiosis (the infantile state) is not viewed a neutral but as a hostile attack (the “bad” breast that does not have any milk).
Consequently, those who refrain from unhealthy symbiosis APPEAR to be on the attack and it is asserted that they are “narcissistic” — but this is all projection at the most basic of levels.
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