http://clarissasblog.com/2013/03/20/who-undermines-women/#comment-87385
And then somebody has the temerity to down vote Clarissa's justified complaint. People just don't like it when they can't feel justified crossing someone else's boundaries.
I'm well aware that it is considered a social faux pas these days to make note of someone's "race" (a dubious concept), but not their gender. One can engage in subtle dominance ploys only in the latter case. But nonetheless, I had cause to respond to somebody recently who persistently overstepped the boundaries after I warned him off. Here is how it went :
ApeNOXIOUS: Thanks, Jennifer! btw, you are looking very feminine!Congrats!
Jennifer Frances Armstrong: Congratulating me for looking pleasing to a male is mindnumbingly stupid. Far better to try to demonstrate an understanding of the complex ideas I have spent time putting across.
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LeeAnne Fourcrows Hensley: Looking "feminine" is a circumstance of one's birth. Not a personal accomplishment. Therefore it is an insult to congratulate someone on their feminine appearance, especially when they are a brilliant and accomplished individual.
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong: Thanks, LeeAnne. It's people emulating the regressive Christian culture that comes from the US. They think a woman's greatest achievement can only be to please various random men.
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong Those with insight express it, those with none fall back on traditional gender roles. Thus it was, thus it always will be. Gender roles are the ultimate security blanket for the one who must travel blindly through life.
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LeeAnne Fourcrows Hensley I am grateful to my insight. Because the world would be a shallow, meaningless place without it.
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong Yup. But those without insight are keen to perpetuate their own experiences of the world.
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LeeAnne Fourcrows Hensley Lack of personal development. Reduces the intellectual and emotional capacity to a fraction of what it was built to be.
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong: But it's also partly a matter of opportunity and culture....
ApeNOXIOUS: i have only said that you look feminine ,excuse me please.
Jennifer Frances Armstrong: Ok, well congratulations! You have black skin. Well done my man. I'm happy to notice it for you. It's rather shiny and flattering.
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ApeNOXIOUSI didn't tell you that you are beautiful.
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong I have no idea what you are getting at, but getting the brain in gear might be good
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong and keep working on your blackness. It is pleasing to me...but not beautiful.
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ApeNOXIOUS: You can be 'ugly' and feminine.
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong: Ok, I am blockiing this idiot.
And then somebody has the temerity to down vote Clarissa's justified complaint. People just don't like it when they can't feel justified crossing someone else's boundaries.
I'm well aware that it is considered a social faux pas these days to make note of someone's "race" (a dubious concept), but not their gender. One can engage in subtle dominance ploys only in the latter case. But nonetheless, I had cause to respond to somebody recently who persistently overstepped the boundaries after I warned him off. Here is how it went :
ApeNOXIOUS: Thanks, Jennifer! btw, you are looking very feminine!Congrats!
Jennifer Frances Armstrong: Congratulating me for looking pleasing to a male is mindnumbingly stupid. Far better to try to demonstrate an understanding of the complex ideas I have spent time putting across.
•
LeeAnne Fourcrows Hensley: Looking "feminine" is a circumstance of one's birth. Not a personal accomplishment. Therefore it is an insult to congratulate someone on their feminine appearance, especially when they are a brilliant and accomplished individual.
•
Jennifer Frances Armstrong: Thanks, LeeAnne. It's people emulating the regressive Christian culture that comes from the US. They think a woman's greatest achievement can only be to please various random men.
[......]
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong Those with insight express it, those with none fall back on traditional gender roles. Thus it was, thus it always will be. Gender roles are the ultimate security blanket for the one who must travel blindly through life.
•
LeeAnne Fourcrows Hensley I am grateful to my insight. Because the world would be a shallow, meaningless place without it.
•
Jennifer Frances Armstrong Yup. But those without insight are keen to perpetuate their own experiences of the world.
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LeeAnne Fourcrows Hensley Lack of personal development. Reduces the intellectual and emotional capacity to a fraction of what it was built to be.
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong: But it's also partly a matter of opportunity and culture....
ApeNOXIOUS: i have only said that you look feminine ,excuse me please.
Jennifer Frances Armstrong: Ok, well congratulations! You have black skin. Well done my man. I'm happy to notice it for you. It's rather shiny and flattering.
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ApeNOXIOUSI didn't tell you that you are beautiful.
•
Jennifer Frances Armstrong I have no idea what you are getting at, but getting the brain in gear might be good
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong and keep working on your blackness. It is pleasing to me...but not beautiful.
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ApeNOXIOUS: You can be 'ugly' and feminine.
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Jennifer Frances Armstrong: Ok, I am blockiing this idiot.
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